For Ozdobe

Dec. 12th, 2014 08:22 am
[personal profile] meeciegeezer
I'm still trying to keep up with reading, even when I can't sort things out to comment all that often. But I figured this deserved a post.

[ profile] ozdobe, I hope you get your hearing back in your left ear soon, but in case you don't, so you don't feel so alone, let me tell you a few perks you might have not realized yet. I lost hearing in my right ear over 20 years ago now, and after a few surgeries I sometimes have some hearing and sometimes I'm pretty deaf, depending on the day. I wear a hearing aid on that side.

1) you will quickly adjust to things like where to sit in the movie theatre, or in a lecture hall, so you can both see the front of the room and angle your good ear towards best sound. For me, this is the left side of the room so I can look at the speaker and have my good ear angled to them too (I'm guessing it'll be the opposite for you)

2) Since you only have one good "phone ear," you have a great excuse to get out of long phone conversations. "Sorry mom, my phone ear is all flattened, and I have a crick in my neck from holding the phone, so I have to hang up now. Can't switch ears!"

3) Your friends will all learn quickly what side of you to walk on when you walk together.

4) You'll become very opinionated about where you sit at large tables, so your good ear will be angled towards the most people. Circular tables present a problem, though.

5) You know that annoying person with the chronic sniffle sitting next to you? No problem, put them on your deaf side. Problem solved.

6) You will start to sleep much more soundly, because you body will gravitate towards sleeping with your good ear muffled by a pillow. Your world will be so quiet as you sleep. You'll make [ profile] ripnpaws jealous, since you just won't hear the dogs obsessively licking at night. Buy a vibrating alarm, or use your phone alarm and rest your phone on the bed.

Date: 2014-12-12 03:39 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thank you. I have started doing a few of these things. A hearing aid won't help since it is the inner ear and not the eardrum - the nerve has been affected somehow.

With Lana being sick, I had to make sure to sleep with the good ear up or I couldn't hear her whining to get let out (every 2 hours in the end). I worry that I won't hear the things that wake me up that I need to hear. Out here in the rural Oregon countryside, not so much noise that you don't want to hear.

But all the other things in the list are pluses!

Thank you for taking the time to give me some pointers.

Date: 2014-12-12 03:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
More than pointers, I wanted to have you feel less alone.

I've heard of the sudden nerve deafness, but didn't want to assume that's what you had - mine was actually a benign, but fast-growing tumor in my middle ear space. So some the same, some different.

You will still wake up. And/or your dogs will learn to poke you awake (Jodah does this).

And I'm sorry again that it happened.

Date: 2014-12-12 04:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Razor pokes me awake... and I can hear JUST FINE>. .friggin dogs.

Date: 2014-12-12 06:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Oh, another thing I thought of, that really only a fellow dog person would get.

Once I lost my hearing on one side (and as it varies, really), I started having a lot of trouble telling where sounds were coming from. Left? Right? Up? To some degree, this got better and better as I got used to it (I figure my brain was re-wiring itself). But I was also all "hey, wait, I'm a DOG person, I should totally train my dogs to help me out with the most common stuff." So yeah, Jodah will usually go find my phone when it rings for me now, which is terribly useful. I'm sure there are other things too.

Date: 2014-12-12 11:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yes, I do feel alone and depressed and not worthwhile. I feel like I am falling apart and this is hard when I depend on sound so much in my life.

Date: 2014-12-13 02:03 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I know. I was too young to worry about it much when mine happened at first, I sort of went through some grieving for my hearing when it dawned on me that this was it, it wasn't going to get better.

But I swear, you really do adapt. It takes a while, but you do.

Date: 2014-12-13 03:22 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Thanks for your comfort and concern. I am sorry to hear you have had a hearing problem all these years. It is the newness that is dragging me down.

I know I will adapt, but... I am already grieving..just a continuance of the existing process I have been going thru for a few years now with all the death I have had.

People don't get it that my base level now is just sadness and grief. I am no longer a basically happy person and each new insult is just another chip at the foundation. O think you do understand. Too many dogs in a few year short years - too many young dogs - too many people and now my own body.
Edited Date: 2014-12-13 03:26 pm (UTC)

Date: 2014-12-13 06:05 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hugs to you. I understand a base level of sadness and then things just piling on top of that.

Date: 2014-12-14 03:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I probably don't really understand. I don't know you well enough to really get it.

But I still can sense around the edges, enough to make me wish I could make it better, and wish I could form more of a connection.

Peace to you. And whatever comfort I can.

Date: 2014-12-13 03:11 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Pan sleeps with her missing-eye-side up so that it is dark, I never thought about that with deafness though! Clever. One side of my hearing suddenly plummeted in capacity and also does this weird thing where it goes like water is in it when I hear certain noises, like close dogs barking and people talking in the car.
Specialist couldn't find anything.

Anyway I'm sure you get sick of people telling you about their ear complaints but I do find hearing interesting. Actually now I think about it I think I've told you this story before. But I didn't know you had a tumour in that ear. Geez

Date: 2014-12-13 03:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
There is the outer ear with the eardrum (mine is fine), there is the inner ear with the cochlea (mine is fine), there is the nerve that conducts the messages to the brain (mine is likely fried and may or may not recover) and then there is the brain that interprets the nerve messages (mine seems fine since it transmits tinnitus and ringing and noise shared with the right ear. That's how I have analysed it - it's the nerve and that can't be helped at all - it is not structural to be fixed.

I am sorry you have intermittent trouble too. Mine feels like I just jumped in a pool and the outer ear is full of water, but I can't clear it.



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